The Ethical Falconeer

Sundry Bloody Sundry: I Want to See a Fat Girl

Mon, 21 Jan 2013 15:31:26 +0100

Sundry Bloody Sundry: I Want to See a Fat Girl:

I want to see a fat girl in a leading role of a film.

I want to see a fat girl in a leading role of a film that isn’t about her weight.

I want to see a fat girl wearing mini skirts or just whatever the fuck she’s comfortable in.

I want to see a fat girl kick some bad guy’s ass.

I want to see…

Su violenza, e violenza di genere.

Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:09:00 +0100

La violenza e’ attuata e puo’ essere attuata da qualsiasi forma di vita nei confronti delle altre forme di vita. Penso sia innegabile che tutte ne sono capaci.

La violenza-di-genere invece si riferisce invece agli animali umani ed e’ attuata dagli uomini nei confronti di tutto quanto non sia uomo in quanto, appunto, non-uomo.

La mia lotta personale non e’ per sconfiggere la violenza-qualunque o analizzare perche’, in questa societa’, le persone sono stronze e prevaricatrici. Mi interessa smantellare un sistema, Patriarcato, che veicola, propaga e perdona la violenza-di-genere. SIAMO D’ACCORDO che il patriarcato favorisce e sponsorizza anche altre forme di violenza, cosi’ come credo siamo d’accordo che la violenza-qualunque NON sia un’invenzione del patriarcato. Ma credo che la violenza-DI-GENERE sia invece strettamente correlata al dominio culturale e materiale-fisico che gli uomini hanno avuto, hanno, e intendono continuare ad avere.

Sappiamo tutt* che NON ogni uomo partecipa al Patriarcato, ma ogni uomo che NON combatte il Patriarcato vi contribuisce e lo rafforza che lo voglia o no. Questo vale anche per chiunque non sia un uomo, quindi anche* le donne (*scusate la confusione ma io contemplo piu’ di due generi sebbene non ci sia ancora un nome per tutti), per cui e’ giusto dire che ogni donna che NON combatte il patriarcato rafforza il patriarcato, ma tuttavia **NON sono le donne ad attuare la violenza di genere**.

Non c’e’ bisogno di ribadire OGNI VOLTA che non tutti gli uomini sono maschilisti. Farlo, per assurdo, contempla e da’ forza a una delirante idea di misandria che invece non esiste. Certo, non tutti gli uomini sono maschilisti e non tutti gli uomini sguazzano nel patriarcato (sebbene restino comunque privilegiati), ma non e’ prioritario in alcun modo spendere energie a elencare le eccezioni ogni volta che viene attaccato l’unico gruppo (non gli individui) che ha il potenziale per attuare la violenza-di-genere e non fa niente per fermarla. Il gruppo, non gli individui, ok?. Ogni uomo veramente antisessista che si senta chiamato in causa ogni volta che una femminista attacca “gli uomini” deve secondo me rivedere di brutto il proprio percorso antisessista.

Il motivo per cui io non accetto e non digerisco questi nuovi percorsi di dialogo con i sostenitori e le sostenitrici del patriarcato e’ perche’ la ritengo una strategia sbagliata- Peggio, a considero addirittura nociva per la lotta.

Non ritengo che il cambiamento avverra’ o possa avvenire cercando di comprendere queste persone e usare un linguaggio piu’ equilibrato.

No.

Il cambiamento avviene assicurandosi che le persone che ancora collaborano con il patriarcato pur convinte che sia il nemico, smettano di farlo e acquisiscano i mezzi per difendersene e contrattaccare. A quel punto i maschilisti, cosi’ come in un sacco di posti e momenti storici e’ stato per i razzisti, saranno travolti. Il cambiamento avviene prima smantellando le insicurezze che ci CI hanno inculcato per mantenerci deboli e complici, che cercando di smantellare le sicurezze che GLI hanno inculcato per mantenerli forti.

Considero il dialogo con un/una anti-femminista un grave errore perche’ offre solo il fianco a strumentalizzazioni. Continuamente, sempre, e sara’ sempre cosi’ (si e’ visto anche di recente mi pare). Non nego che possa essere utile sul piano PERSONALE, ma sul piano collettivo e della lotta lo ritengo un grave sbaglio che indebolisce tutt*.

Quindi per come la vedo io non si tratta di difendere le donne a tutti i costi. Le donne possono essere stronze e spesso lo sono (come qualsiasi altro essere vivente). Le donne possono essere violente e spesso lo sono (come qualsiasi altro essere vivente). Credo che lo sappiamo tutt*.

Ma le donne non praticano la violenza di genere ne’ la misandria, e ogni volta che questo concetto viene ambiguizzato (anche involontariamente) in pubblico (!) si rafforza il patriarcato. Potrei non intendermene di femminismo, ma me ne intendo di patriarcato e so di cosa si nutre. E come e’ abilissimo a sfruttare le aperture e manipolare l’auto-coscienza altrui.

Quindi, attent* alle parole che usate. E a come esprimete e esternate i vostri importantissimi e rispettabilissimi percorsi personali. All’interno hanno un valore. All’esterno completamente un’altro.

Io la penso cosi’. E concludo come ho cominciato.

La violenza e’ praticata da tutt*

La violenza di genere e’ praticata dagli uomini. Magari tra tremila anni sara’ in un altro modo, ma in questa era geologica e’ cosi’ e non ripeterlo a chiare lettere ogni volta e’ per me un grave errore. Poi, dopo averlo ribadito, possiamo parlare delle eccezioni.

Drew

“What makes us...

Fri, 12 Oct 2012 14:35:34 +0200

“What makes us Queer?”

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BE CAREFUL! NSFW!
Lots of sex in this video so do NOT watch it in places where that would put you in trouble and do not watch it if you are not comfortable with humans and human bodies pleasuring each other. I mean it, watch it under your responsibility.

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Families

Mon, 08 Oct 2012 16:44:59 +0200

I feel like making this statement: blood bonds mean close to nothing to me. Chosen families are what I care for. I handpick my relatives, brothers, sisters, partners and lovers, and I consider it a huge deal when they choose me. Why yes, the keyword here is choice, choosing, being free from traditions and free of creating your own paradigms.

So yeah, I love my family so much.

For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It

Sat, 11 Aug 2012 18:06:05 +0200

‎”What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter?

What if women were the ones who started wars?

What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly?

What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun?

What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs?

What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands?

What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes?

What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons?

What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”?

What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”?

What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job?

What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running?

And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?”

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For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl

“This is my body”.Fuck patriarchy.

Tue, 31 Jul 2012 16:58:00 +0200

“This is my body”.

Fuck patriarchy.

“Women need iron. Not the vitamin. The barbell.We are trained by the...

Fri, 01 Jun 2012 10:42:00 +0200

“Women need iron. Not the vitamin. The barbell.We are trained by the...:

This might be controversial, or simply disagreed on, but I still think it deserves to be shared. The author is a young Australian sports model and fitness professional named Natasha Hutchinson.

Source: lovelylilthing:

“Women need iron.

Not the vitamin. The barbell.

We are trained by the world around us to have fucked up ideas about our bodies; iron unfucks them.

We are supposed to be as thin as possible, as small as possible, perhaps until we disappear; iron teaches us to take up space.

We are taught that the only good direction for the scale to go is down, and to agonize ritualistically when it goes up. Ironteaches us the power of gaining weight for strength and gives us another weight to care about – the weight we are lifting.

We are taught to eat small amounts daintily and treat food as sin and pleasure. Iron teaches us to eat heartily, to see food as fuel for life, and to seek out nutritious food rather than avoiding sinful food.

We are taught to think of our bodies as decorative, an object to be looked at; iron teaches us to think of our bodies as functional, our own active selves, not passive objects for another’s regard.

Whole industries exist to profit by removing from us our confidence and selling it back as external objects. Iron gives us confidence from within through progressive training and measurable achievements.

We are taught to be gentle and hide our strength or even to cultivate charming physical weakness until we start to believe our bodies are weak. Iron teaches us how strong we can be.”

-Natasha Hutchinson

TWEET THIS YOU SMALL-MINDED...

Thu, 10 May 2012 15:57:00 +0200

TWEET THIS YOU SMALL-MINDED MOTHERFUCKER!

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“You’re a dirty carpet munching cunt that belongs in my kitchen, washing my dishes and cock. Write a poem about that….”

So I took his advice and wrote the poem.

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Obviously
you are a rotting dick/an ass wipe
an open sore existing
among the worst tumors that plague humanity

you are an apology someone should have made
to women
centuries ago

today you remain
a very good reason abortions should be legal
and available
to every woman who finds herself
carrying the figurative fetus of your fetid misogyny

get the fuck out of my womb
you hater of your own origin
you forget you came from some woman’s cunt
the pussy you so deride
provided path for you
to get here spewing such sick soliloquy

your existence
makes a good argument for capital punishment
only I hold myself
accountable to a more compassionate code of ethics
so I refrain from advocating
for the archaic quartering of you
I will also resist the urge
to imagine you shackled in sequestered servitude
kneeling at the altar of some woman’s holy cunt
washing her feet with your mouth
only
I would not wish her the degradation
of your tongue on her flesh
your feet on her floors

you are the thing I will spend my entire life
trying to protect my daughter
from/the slime of your ignorance
the sweat of your hate
coward that you are
hiding behind the intangible shroud of the virtual
your keystrokes are the only ones with any power
impotent
unimportant little man
you splatter the male identity
with the putridity you exude
rotting apple/gonorrheal wound
refusing to heal/you would have us conclude
that most people with penises are like you

but for the stellar examples of men in my life
I would think you the norm
your actions would inform the love I cradle
for the small boys in my circle
earnestly learning
how to be better than the monster you are

far and away
fairytales and fiction pervade what they know of vaginas
valuing virginity over the virtue of being fair
bravado over advocating for equality
you make me wish I had a son
to personally prove your antithesis possible

Frankenstein
you frighten me
with your ability to keep breathing
your inclination to replicate
to recruit
to keep pressing the boot of your discrimination
upon the necks of generation after generation
after generation

the only thing that prevents me from raising arms
and going guerilla after you with guns
is our collective dedication
to the eradication of your kind
across all the borders of feminism
and race
and spaces held wire against the throat of equality
women resist heart and body
cunts and collarbones
kitchens and bedrooms
we rebuke all you offer as fact
the act of tweeting something does not make true

you are only a narrow opinion
constructed poorly
one hundred forty characters/your cavalry
is not nearly as committed as mine
you and your cronies were contrived
to keep the best parts of us broken
these poems you and your drones continue to encourage
these litanies I continue to compose
will stand as evidence your crumbling tyranny
time will hold your actions
your utterances
as shameful

as it was with every disease before you
the strongest/most admirable parts of being human
will keep adapting/over and over
history has already shown us
what doesn’t kill us/will make our resistance stronger
however unpleasant
the uphill task of surviving you as pandemic
can only make our species more immune

- [StaceyAnn Chin]

(Please note everything above belongs to StaceyAnn Chin. She wrote it all, and it’s her in the photo).

This is a great explanation of why I only eat "ethical meat". I don't plan to convince anybody, let alone judge. I've been eating all sorts of meat for 36 years so I will never ever judge someone for doing so. Still, it's good to see things from another perspective from time to time.

Thu, 26 Apr 2012 11:39:08 +0200

This is a great explanation of why I only eat "ethical meat". I don't plan to convince anybody, let alone judge. I've been eating all sorts of meat for 36 years so I will never ever judge someone for doing so. Still, it's good to see things from another perspective from time to time.:

Click above for the full article. ***BE CAREFUL - TRIGGER WARNING*** Strong images, video and description.

A woman fights back. The story of how you can stand your ground and inspire others.

Tue, 24 Apr 2012 14:32:38 +0200

A woman fights back. The story of how you can stand your ground and inspire others.:

After a stranger exposed himself to her on her trolley ride home from work last week, a 24-year-old Boston woman confronted her wrongdoer in exactly the righteous sort of way that most us only ever have the opportunity to rehearse angrily in front of a bathroom mirror — she forced him to his feet and shamed him in front of the other passengers right up until police came to haul him away. (click title for article and video).

Awake & unafraid.: I am a feminist.

Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:31:44 +0200

Awake & unafraid.: I am a feminist.:

stfuhypocrisy:

alllllll-of-the-spectacular:

introspectivestardust:

As long as women’s natural body hair is called disgusting and inappropriate while men’s isn’t, I am a feminist.

As long as I can’t watch an episode of a popular sitcom without having to sit through multiple sexist comments or “jokes”, I am a feminist.

As long as women have to face the rational fear of being sexually assaulted every time they walk home past dark while men don’t, I am a feminist.

As long as misogyny exists in any country in this world, I am a feminist.

As long as women are being raped, then stoned to death or forced to marry their rapist, I am a feminist.

As long as companies promote men to manager when there are women who are equally as or better qualified, because they find that men look more authoritative, I am a feminist.

As long as women (her choice of clothes, her friendly nature, her weakness, her choice to drink alcohol) get blamed when men rape them, I am a feminist.

As long women’s opinions on online social networks are dismissed with phrases like “tits or gtfo”, “get back to the kitchen”, “are you pms’ing?”, I am a feminist.

As long as dressing like a woman is degrading for men and as long as men are insulted with phrases like “you throw like a woman”, clearly implying that being like a woman is shameful, I am a feminist.

As long as both men and women are expected to work, but taking care of children and the household are still largely considered a woman’s job, I am a feminist.

As long as boys and girls are treated differently, expected to act differently, and surrounded by different toys and colours from the day they are born, I am a feminist.

As long as topless women aren’t allowed in public unless they’re on the cover of a men’s magazine, I am a feminist.

As long as women who have sex frequently are generally told they are “sluts”, “lacking self-respect” and “lacking morals” by both men and women, while men who frequently have sex are “just being men” and it’s “natural for them”, I am a feminist.

As long as there are places where women have to pay more for health insurance than men, I am a feminist.

As long as men experience situations with equal gender representation as female-dominated, and don’t consider a group discussion equal unless there are significantly more men than women participants (as has been proven), I am a feminist.

As long as there are men who think it’s their wife or girlfriend’s duty to have sex with them whenever they want, I am a feminist.

As long as the word feminism (“the movement aimed at equal rights for women”) has a negative connotation, I am a feminist.

As long as misogynistic people exist, I am a feminist.

"Okay, here’s the thing. Good-natured people can be sexually coercive. The worst part is that..."

Sun, 22 Apr 2012 22:09:59 +0200

““Okay, here’s the thing. Good-natured people can be sexually coercive. The worst part is that you won’t even realize when you’ve done something wrong. Please, everyone, get involved in active consent ethics and learn to not only communicate, but learn body language and signs that someone may be uncomfortable. It’s a failing on behalf of many patriarchal institutions, but it doesn’t have to be this way. I have been coerced by people who had no ill-intent whatsoever, who were my friends, good friends, and they had no idea what they did wrong. Educate yourself on consent ethics and partner care & communication. It will make everything so much better, I promise. And it’s everyone who needs to do this, not just certain people (Though I’m sure certain people need it moreso than others).””

- A special woman I know and love.

"That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women."

Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:30:00 +0200

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Ashley Judd, from her powerful article that you can and _should_ absolutely read and reshare from the link below.

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/04/09/ashley-judd-slaps-media-in-the-face-for-speculation-over-her-puffy-appearance.html

"Lets make this CLEAR! I am polysexual. PERIOD. Dont request that I place myself in any other box. I..."

Tue, 13 Mar 2012 10:15:00 +0100

“Lets make this CLEAR! I am polysexual. PERIOD. Dont request that I place myself in any other box. I am not taken. Will not be “taken” ever again. My soul is free. I love freely, and if you question this in a negative manner or have something negative to say about it, then you can go ahead and remove yourself from my life.
I am sick of defending myself, being called a slut, or bi, or whatever label they have for me. Bottom-line, I love. I love freely. I didnt get a say so in the “traditional rules” of “love”. All the punishments and rules that govern you, your heart, your life under those rules I had NO SAY SO IN THEM. FUCK THAT! I control me. I create my own fate. I am NOT living by some patriarchal white fucks rule on how I use my bed, direct my heart, or my body. Fuck tradition. Fuck rules. I have this ONE life, and I will live it as I DAMN WELL PLEASE. This is not a fucking test run. And I will not be told who, what, where, why, and when I am allowed to listen to myself. I’m over that. I’ve been over that for some time. I just had a lover threaten if they found a man in my life. WTF? “I’m ok with women, but I’ll kill a man”. Really? A threat? No thanks, you can peace the fuck out. I’m me. Always will be. Always have been. DEUCES! I love. I’m a lover. Label me what you please (slut, gets around, confused, player, what the fuck ever)… I’m living, and by MY rules, as this is MY life, and what goes on in my heart, body, and bed is MY business. PERIOD. ♥ Thats what is going on. And this from a “lover” who supposedly “accepted me 100%”. Funniest shit, I’ve ONLY been dedicating myself to them as that is how I feel right now, but I needed some ME time… literally just ME, and I got that threat. Very nice to wake to. So, I’m making my statement clear. To the world. Official. This is me. Love me or hate me. And if it is the latter, GET THE FUCK TO STEPPING, as NOT ONE FUCK WILL BE GIVEN AS YOU AND YOUR NEGATIVE PATRIARCHAL ASS WALKS AWAY… end of rant. HAH! ♥’s and kisses kittens. Please and thanks. ♥ Nikkita!”

- - [The mighty Nikkita Oh]

"March 8th: Pardon the interruption. Starting tomorrow, the 2012th International Men’s Year will..."

Thu, 08 Mar 2012 18:34:00 +0100

“March 8th: Pardon the interruption. Starting tomorrow, the 2012th International Men’s Year will resume regularly.”

Photo

Thu, 08 Mar 2012 18:33:00 +0100

This is just so great. It’s powerful, intense, authentic....

Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:02:00 +0100

This is just so great. It’s powerful, intense, authentic. I would have loved it even more without the swimsuit advertising thing, cause the way I see it people will still think “yeah sure but she’s beautiful and so harmonious while I am not and I am just fat. She’s plus size but hell she’s a model!”. While reality is that regardless of what industries think and try to convert into money, she’s just a strong, fierce woman who has something mighty to share and I am so thankful to her for doing it. Thank you Brittany Gibbons.

Limited human lifespan created the myth of neverending love and monogamy

Wed, 11 Jan 2012 09:38:33 +0100

The idea is that people die before they can break up. While loving someone forever is entirely possible, it is undemonstrable, like the opposite. I think that the limited amount of time available to humans make them commit to an idea of eternity that just doesn’t belong to them. In relative terms, humans eternity is, aptly, their own lifespan. But since in the grand scheme of things, where nothing in existence is immutable, to assume that the desire to stay together and be attracted to each other is a possibility is, in my opinion, a myth based on an extremely small and faulty sample. Also, to know that we have a limited amount of time available creates the premises for an emotional survival economy. Meaning, just as an example, how many people feel like breaking up in their 60s?

Ultimately, I believe love is infinite and can last aeons. But I am also convinced that basically lots of people do their best to die before they can break up, as that is perceived as the only possible happy ending.

In this perspective, monogamy helps the survival economy, two people supporting each other in getting over the day, pass the night, and complete the given task: to not die alone.

If humans were immortal, they would break up all the time (they already do. I just mean more than now) and we’ll probably see that no one can stand someone else for more than maybe 100 or 200 years, especially if not plagued by the scary thought of aging, getting uglier, and being forced in loneliness (Incidentally, fear is another powerful motive for monogamy, if not the strongest).

Seriously, America?: Whistles

Sat, 24 Dec 2011 13:28:00 +0100

Seriously, America?: Whistles:

loveisthenumbernine:

jokerowl:

feministbecky:

falconeer:

What we used to do back in the day in college classes where male professors made sexist comments… we brought whistles to class, and every time the man said “girl” or made a demeaning “nice” comment about women, we literally blew the whistle.

In a theology…

Nice idea

This is a cool idea, but I don’t like how the article discriminates against men :/ I mean, I’d be all up on this, and most of the guys I hang out with don’t make sexist comments. And what about the female teachers? Are the female teachers going to be whistled, too? What about sexism against men? Is that going to be whistled?

Yes, of course female teachers should be whistled. I think the article focuses on men cause we all know where Patriarchy is coming from and who is actively making sure it will always stay in place, but it’s because too many women are webbed into this way of thinking, for multiple reasons which would deserve a post on their own, that sexism stays as strong as it is. Yes, women can be sexist against women too, actually they are often, and that is part of the problem. So yes, if whistles have to be, they have to be whenever sexism is spotted.

Whistles

Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:43:30 +0100

What we used to do back in the day in college classes where male professors made sexist comments… we brought whistles to class, and every time the man said “girl” or made a demeaning “nice” comment about women, we literally blew the whistle.

In a theology class, every time the male professor used “he” as the pronoun for god, we blew our whistles. It took about a week for these men to stop the sexist words. No shouting needed, just 20 plus women with whistles, plus handing out leaflets explaining the use of the whistles.

Women need to participate in large groups (100 plus), with whistles and stop watches to time male vs. female speech. Women interrupted by other men — whistles could blow loudly while he talked.

It was amazing to see how nervous those male teachers were when the women came in with whistles around their necks. And we poured on the pressure by blowing them if the male made a “joke” to deal with the women standing up against sexism in the classroom. Interestingly enough, no other male students supported this action, and often confused sexist speech with freedom of speech. Heaven forbid that men would loose the power of freedom of speech to call women names, grab mics away from women, and threaten women with harm for speaking up against male supremacy.

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From OccupyPatriarchy.org, by Lucinda Marshall